Photograph by Nour Annan
Photograph by Nour Annan

It was an ideal weekend in early September in New York City when I found myself, having recently returned from Beirut, eager to tag along to Robert Moses beach on Long Island with a friend and a group of people I had never met. The Long Island shore was littered with dispersed pockets of sunbathers, lying ten feet apart. It was a languid day, moving at its own pace. I barely plopped my mesh bag onto the sand before ripping off my clothes and rushing towards the ocean, diving headfirst into an incoming wave. Almost immediately, the wave ripped my sunglasses off my face, pulling them quickly and fiercely under its opaque surface. I felt panicked for a few seconds. My hands frantically and blindly searched the murky waters, finding nothing. I paced with agitation on the shoreline, hoping they would be swept to the shore by some divine intervention. 

Grief and guilt simmered in me. Even long after I had given up my search for them, I remained irritated. “I can’t believe I lost my sunglasses,” I kept repeating. I felt bitter and foolish. How absolutely vain I must have seemed to this new group of people. “Maybe they’ll turn up now,” I’d remark everytime we went back in for a dip, scanning to see if there was a flash of gold or a reflection of light anywhere.

My aunt had given me this particular pair of sunglasses
a vintage, stylish round pair that had belonged to her late cousin right at the beginning of my visit to Lebanon this summer. Known in the family for having a knack for losing things, I had vowed not to misplace them. I wore them all through the summer in Beirut.

I wore them to the pool on the first days of my visit, as I adjusted to the feeling of foreboding that hung in the city’s garbage-ridden streets. Later, I wore them as we swept shards of glass off our streets in the humid heat and cleared out pieces of doors and windows and ceilings in the days following the government-sponsored massacre on the fourth of August. I wore them in the bright heat of the afternoon in Martyrs’ Square on the eighth of August when we chanted “Prepare the nooses!” as security forces welcomed us with canisters of tear gas, rubber bullets, and live ammunition, injuring close to 700 protestors that day, mere days after the explosion. I wore them in the South of Lebanon, gazing at the sea from a rooftop in Tyre, after I had picked mangoes from the trees and dug into their sweet, sticky middle. I wore them in the North of Lebanon, in Batroun, days before my departure, where the sea was crystal clear, and the sharp, rocky shore was somehow still welcoming. Their loss seemed fatefully unjust. 

I went about my day, resigning to playful interactions with the waves and a few beach volleyball matches with a sweet, competitive family, but the tightness of grief remained lodged in my chest. My inability to let this loss go began to amuse me. Like an adolescent who, knowing they will not be able to convince their parents to let them go on that Faraya trip, will become ostentatiously stubborn about getting a new phone, I, too, was bargaining with the universe within the boundaries of what I thought I could control. In a matter of weeks, I had lost my city, my people, my plans, physical proximity to my loved ones, my safety, and my sense of time. Yet, it was the loss of my glasses that mind was clinging to, desperate to correct. 

Earlier this summer, in the middle of July, when I had first visited the beach at Robert Moses, I made sure to have a solemn conversation with the waves. I had prepared myself for the fact that this was likely to be an unexpected summer. Lebanon had been slowly but surely disintegrating in the months that had preceded my visit, with its decimated economy, persistent fuel shortages, rapidly increasing poverty and unemployment, and an utterly incompetent regime so entrenched in their failing post-war power structures that it had not even the decency to develop the pretense of reform. As I swam in the Atlantic, it felt as if generations of trauma stored in my body were readying me, preparing me for the moment when my body would have to solidify into warrior, not worrier. 

This moment came when my city was engulfed by an earth-shattering regime-made mushroom cloud and crumbled into bones. 

My body and mind were stunned by the explosion itself, my grandmother’s apartment suddenly shaking violently before a deafening sound pulled me and my family down to the ground. I rushed into the bathroom to find my grandmother disoriented on the toilet, covered in the ash of her own cigarette. “I don’t get scared, don’t worry,” she said, “Are you scared? This is your first explosion, isn’t it?” (It was not). 

My mind, to this day, still cannot comprehend or cognitively process the levels of devastation that could not seem to even compare to the damage caused by fifteen years of civil war.

But a deeper, existential shock was missing. And it is the absence of that particular shock that perplexes me. 

Ronnie Janoff-Bulman, a professor of psychology, argues that the hallmark of traumatic response lies in its ability to shatter and force us to challenge core assumptions we hold about the world and our relationship to it. It is our assumption as children navigating the world, she states, that the world is an overall benevolent, meaningful space, in which our self holds worth and our actions are met with equitable consequences. Following a traumatic event, our mind struggles to make sense of our newfound realization that these assumptions we held were, in fact, never true
this inner conflict characterizes our response to trauma. 

I think about this theory often. I wonder whether it applies in a context like this, when our exposure to traumatic events is so deep-seated, chronic, and intergenerational in nature. Trauma no longer constitutes an event or collection of events, but rather embeds itself in the cells of our everyday existence and relationships with the world around us. 

When the powers that be blew up their own capital, I did not bother to ask, “How could this happen?” No assumption of benevolence or justice was shattered, because I did not believe we were experiencing anything that contrasted with any assumptions I had clung to about the world. In fact, I found myself questioning my own shock, wondering to myself what else I had expected. 

When trauma has been passed down through generations and remains so pervasive in the thread of everyday life, are assumptions of benevolence and justice even made? If they were ever really intact, when do they begin to disintegrate?

Following a traumatic event, most mental health treatment and recovery often eventually includes working with the individual to build a narrative around what has happened, in which the person can develop some sense of coherence or meaning. Jannof-Bulman talks about the reshaping and rebuilding of more nuanced, accurate assumptions. Australian neurologist Viktor Frankl, during his time in a Nazi concentration camp, espoused the importance of meaning making, deeming it the one thing that a person can control in face of overwhelmingly uncontrollable circumstances. It is a concept you can catch me integrating into any conversation, and it has framed much of my research as a doctoral psychology student. 

Yet, I find myself beginning to question the relevance of this. At what point might the attempt to create meaning feel futile, impossible, and at times, destructive? For us to create any kind of helpful or accurate “meaning” surrounding the explosion, the decades of humiliation and injustice that preceded it, and the inhumanity of the first week of August, would require us to try and make sense of the nature of our political system
 this entrenched, humiliating institution that has held an exuberant amount of our power over our heads for decades. And where do we begin with that, when we are constantly reminded that we are a plaything in the hands of local, regional, and global powers? If, at one time, we could have hoped to find meaning in the resistance, in revolution, we now are looking around in a hazy panic to realize that our locus of control has never been more invisible to us. 

“The ocean stole my glasses,” I text my aunt in despair.

“Maybe Randa wanted them back,” she responds, referring to her late cousin. 

I have read enough about trauma to understand all that my body is storing, and all the ways that the trauma embedded into my cellular composition will choose to manifest itself. I know my control is at an all-time low. I recognize the grief tapping at my window, asking to roam. Knowing it is incapable of fathoming the loss of my homeland, it is feeding loss to me in painful but digestible increments. Resistance is a practice to be sustained, and our collective loss creeps into every dynamic, every interaction – including the ones with the ocean. Perhaps I need to  hold on to my anger at the Atlantic, and at myself for choosing to return to it. It might be the only resistance my body can muster.

Nawal Muradwij

Nawal Muradwij was raised in Beirut and is currently a PhD student in Clinical Psychology at the City University of New York. She is a child and adolescent therapist and her research is focused on examining how communities, particularly in Lebanon, understand and respond to collective violence.

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<span id="docs-internal-guid-ae548f4e-7fff-2404-2b25-1984abe4c249">Nawal Muradwij was raised in Beirut and is currently a PhD student in Clinical Psychology at the City University of New York. She is a child and adolescent therapist and her research is focused on examining how communities, particularly in Lebanon, understand and respond to collective violence.</span>

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